The summer just flew by and we are full swing into a new school year. Today is also the first day of FALL!!!!! I am an autumn girl all the way. Cool days. Sweaters. Leaves changing. Fall harvest. And I still get to wear my sandals.
This is usually the time of year when I really notice how much my kids have grown. Back to school means wearing more pants than shorts and I see just how much they have sprouted up when last yeas school clothes are leaving a bit more exposed ankle than before.
Recently I’ve been seeing new posts on Facebook about a song that apparently moms everywhere are calling the best song ever. It’s all about wanting kids to stay little for a while longer. While I tease my kids about growing up so fast and we joke about their ability (or inability) to stay little, I am not one of those moms who spends tons of time wishing my kids were littler than they are.
Nothing wrong with feeling the way you feel and there are times when I miss baby snuggles and napping with toddlers on the sofa, but more times than not I am happy being in the moment with my kids. When we reminisce about their earlier years it is mostly with joy and laughter. We are too busy experiencing new things and really being present in each stage that our entire family goes through to long for days gone by.
Be present with the people in your life. Live in the moment and experience everything good that you can now. Enjoying the special things that life has to offer now means less regrets later.
Today was report card day for my kids and they are all finished school for the summer. It’s a pretty low key day for us. Spending time with family and making plans for summer and their rugby season starts this evening so we will be heading there after supper.
Around here the last day of school is called Grading Day and its become a big event. I totally get the fact that kids and parents are glad that school is over for the year but I feel like parents are going way overboard when it comes to “grading day”. Its almost as bad as birthdays and Christmas. Big gifts. Big celebrations. Don’t get me wrong. There’s nothing wrong with celebrating the end of the year, especially if it’s a graduation year, but spending hundreds of dollars on grading gifts every year!? When did this become the usual thing to do???
I had my first spin of the season on the lawn tractor today and got an up close look at all the trees and shrubs on the property. All of the apple trees are in full bloom and it is gorgeous! Some are pink. Some are white. Some are blush. One of them even looks like it has fluffy branches there are so many blossoms on it. It’s amazing to me that each blossom is a potential apple. We wouldn’t know what to do with all of them if they all turned into fruit. The pear and plum tree are slower to come out but even those have creamy colored blossoms scattered throughout the branches and are so pretty.
We are really lucky that we have so much on the property. When we bought the house it was winter and we couldn’t tell what things were, and it was a repo so we didn’t have any information from the previous owners either. That first summer we were here we were amazed to find out what everything was. Apple, pear, and plum trees, a giant hydrangia in the most gorgeous pink, a big bleeding heart, a tiger lily, several hostas, a snowball tree, a couple of lilacs, a big yellow bush that I think is forsythia, more choke cherry and birch trees than I can count, and a bunch of pine, oak, and willow trees. We were also blessed with rose bushes and tons of blackberry canes which are taking over one part of the property. Whoever took the time to plant the trees and shrubs made sure there would be color around all summer.
I noticed a lot of butterflies this summer. There was a little black one that had brilliant red on parts of its wings and you couldn’t see it until it started to flutter. There were some that were baby blue, some were creamy beige, some were pink.
And then there were the grasses that I was mowing. All shapes and sizes and every shade of green imaginable. Then there was one that was a rusty red/orange that I don’t remember seeing before. Maybe I was just in the mood to really look today. I left one part of the grass long on purpose. As I was going by I noticed a spot that was flattened out and I wondered if a deer had been laying there or if the kids used it as a hiding spot. Either way, it looked like it needed to stay there so I bypassed it.
Any other day I’d be looking for my phone so I could take pictures but in the back of my mind I could hear Little Man reminding me to “just go out and have a fun day”.
There’s been a lot in the media lately about washrooms and which ones should or shouldn’t be used by some people. This evening I have an issue of my own when it comes to washrooms and it has to do with The Littles.
We were at a mall having dinner in the food court. We were having a nice time. We were minding our own business chatting about the day. Nothing unusual was happening until I sent the kids to wash their hands. “Stay together and I’ll meet you down the hall in a second. I’m just clearing up the trays.” was what I said to them and off they went togetherbac. Now keep in mind that we are in another town and The Littles are 7 and 9. Not teenagers. Not adults. 7 and 9!
So I throw away the garbage, pick up our stuff, and head down to meet up with the kids. Little Miss is standing outside the washroom and Little Man is not with her. What’s going on????? “the lady said he couldn’t come in with me and there’s no family bathroom so she said he had to go by himself” says Little Miss. I was stunned! I almost couldn’t say anything. Why would this stranger feel it was OK to tell my kids they could separate from each other? Why wasn’t it OK for a 7 year old to go with his sister to a washroom? What was he going to do in there? HE’S 7!!!!
Part of me felt like I was overreacting but a bigger part, that mom instinct, was telling me ‘no you didn’t overreact, those are your babies and you wanted them together and safe’, and that’s the part that’s right 99% of the time.
Now I’m not one of those moms who won’t let their kids do anything because they might get hurt. In fact, I try to teach the kids how to do all kinds of different like how to cook and use sharp knives, how to use different tools and equipment around the farm, how to build things, etc. I let them climb trees, jump around on hay bales, and play with sticks. But as liberal as I am with the kids, sometimes I get the feeling that I need to be just that little bit safer in a particular situation and this evening it was it.
I did confront the lady in question (who was a food court worker) when she came back down the hallway, who then went back out into the food court and discussed it with the security guard loud enough for everyone around them to hear. I just walked away at that point and let it all percolate in my mind. No point in escalating the situation. I did feel a little vindicated though when I heard the security guard say to her “don’t worry about it, it’s alright”.
I was still a bit worked up when we got home so after some snuggle time I tucked The Littles in bed and wrote a letter to mall administration. I tried to be factual and not put too much emotion in it but I’m not sure how successful I was with that part of it. I’ll be the first to admit that I am quite emotional when it comes to my kids.
No matter the response I get from the mall, I’ll chalk this one up to experience…and I’ll keep on listening to that mom instinct.
Our big plan was to list our house and move to something smaller with more land. The real estate market/universe has other plans for us right now so we’ll just go with it.
Part of me is disappointed of course, but if I’m being honest with myself (and you) I think a bigger part of me is just fine with how things are progressing. I look around and realize the place we’ve chosen to call home for the past 5 years is pretty good after all. Our children love it here, spend tons of time outdoors, and love their school and friends they have there. We’ve made some pretty great friends here. Our fruit trees are blossoming and there is color everywhere. We have established places on the property for our animals and that is working out well.
Our house will always be a work in progress and I guess in that way a house is like a marriage; you always have to work at it to make it what you want. Might be time for a little bit of house therapy over the summer. 🙂
Have a great day everyone.
Seems like there are animals everywhere around me these days. Chicks in the kitchen, rabbits in the living room, hens and ducks roaming the property. And yet I still think about adding more.
I’m finding rabbits extremely easy to care for and quite interesting to have around. They aren’t costing much money either. I can imagine they would cost very little if we grew some of our own food for them or used tractor cages in the summer time. Not sure if I like rabbit meat but I’m ready to breed them at least once to see. (The two that we have now are strictly pets/breeding stock and won’t be dinner).
I also find myself wanting more laying hens. We aren’t utilizing the ducks as well as we should and they are costing us more than they are worth so rehoming most of them and replacing with hens is my plan at the moment
Eventually when we have a plan with our realtor we will make a decision about having pigs again. They were a good animal to have and depending on the breed you can really good meat yield.
AND because I’m just a little bit crazy, I keep looking at goats. Depending on the breed they are good for meat, milk,fibre, or sometimes a combination.
I don’t tell my husband that I keep looking at alpacas because I know I’d end up a single alpaca farmer. 😳
I’ve been asked that question a lot in the past few years. People wonder why we would want to be “away from everything”. One of the reasons came Friday evening as we were finishing up supper. We heard a voice in the porch saying “hello, anyone home” and when I went to see who it was I found a stranger standing there.
Some of you would be totally horrified to find a stranger has just let themselves into your house, but out in the country where everyone knows everyone else people just pop their heads in and holler. If there is anyone home they’ll come to the door. If no one is home someone will either go on their way, leave a note, or if it’s family or a close friend they’ll wait for you to come home.
So this evening there was a lady in our porch telling me that she was our neighbor from up the road. This lovely lady who we had never met before saw one of our ducks being carried off by a fox so she got it and brought it back to us. She didn’t have to leave her nice warm house in order to chase a fox away from one of our ducks. She certainly didn’t have to go out into the field, pick up an injured half dead duck, and carry it all the way back to us. But she did and she knows that we would have done the same thing for her or any one of our neighbors.
Its this kind looking out for each other that makes us want to be country folk.
I love going to our local feed store. I never thought I’d say that about a feed store, but I also never thought I’d be blogging about farming either, and here I am.
When we moved to the area we didn’t know anyone until Little Miss started school and we got to know the other families in her class. Thank God for birthday parties that year or I’d still be wondering what parents went along with what kid. After soccer or the beach or something like that one day, one of those parents that we met through school introduced us to this little corner store where he said you could get ice cream cones for a really good price. Bonus! I don’t do well in the heat so any time we can get in the air conditioned car and go get ice cream that won’t break the bank I’m game for that. And so this became our go to ice cream place. After a while I started to look around more and more and I realized that this “little corner store” was anything but. They had something for everyone and that’s exactly who you’d see there…everyone. They had coffee and snacks, groceries, clothing, jewellery, farm and hardware supplies, souvenirs, books, ammunition, bulletin boards with community events, etc. I’m sure I’m leaving out lots of stuff but I’d be here all day listing it all.
Of course they have their feed section too. Not being a country girl I equated the Purina sign out front with dog food and thought that was all they carried until another school friend told me about their animal feed section. What??? Animal feed??? From the corner store??? Yup, from the corner store. They carry all sorts of different feeds for lots of different farmers around and the owners have been farmers themselves so they can talk about most every animal on the go. When it’s not busy in the store it’s not unusual, like this morning, to stand around the cash register chatting about how well the new feed is selling and what others are saying about it, or discussing different bedding materials that we’ve used, or where to get piglets this year.
Something else I learned about getting from the feed store in the spring was chicks. Again, who would have known? Not a girl from a small mining town, that’s for sure. For now our meat chickens will come from our feed store. They have a supplier that gives them an estimate of hatch dates and number of chickens they expect. After the orders are placed we just have to wait for the call. *Hatching birds isn’t an exact science, but like having a human baby, you have a window of expectation. Chickens are normally a 21 day hatch so we know an approximate date that they should be hatching and are ready a few days before or after that.* When we do get the call it’s so exciting and we can hear the chicks peeping in the background…hundreds of them.
After all that, my trip in there this morning was to order our chicks for the season. I have a plan to raise dual purpose birds, meat and eggs, but that plan got weigh laid when we had to dispatch one of our aggressive roosters (I’ll post about roosters another time and give the rest of that story).
We’ve decided to do three batches of 12 meat birds this summer. Other summer we’ve tried to doing larger batches and have come across two main problems:
- The first is that it’s a lot more work. They need more food, more water, more attention, more cleaning, more time. More birds also means more processing time at the end. An entire day spent processing chickens is exhausting!
- The second reason I’d like to do smaller batches is so that they have more space in the bird house. We’ve done several batches of different sizes and the smaller bird house (where the meat birds will live) is more suited to 12 or less birds. We want them to have good lives and part of that means having room to be comfortable inside, and space outside to do what chickens love to do.
In the past we’ve always lost some of our meat birds. Some of them as chicks, and some of them as full grown or almost full grown birds. We’ve been pretty lucky actually and have come through each season with most of the birds we started out with. That being said, I’m hoping that by the end of October we will have processed and packaged at least 30 chickens for the freezer.
So now I’ve got about 6 weeks to make sure all of our waterers and feeders are clean and ready and that the heat lamp is working well. There is some controversy with using heat lamps and that will be another blog post later on as well. For now we still use ours and are using every precaution with it.
It’s raining here and blowing a gale but I hope wherever you are it’s better weather and that you’re having a beautiful day.
I read a post from TreeHugger on Facebook today on reducing the amount of plastic we use and it got me thinking about what we do to try to be more environmentally friendly. I’m happy to say that where we live we have a great curbside recycling program. Paper/cardboard/plastic/metals/compost. There’s not a very big list of what we can’t recycle or compost and it leads to us not having very much garbage at all. I know we can still reduce that as we produce more of our own food but for now we’re down to only one garbage bag per week.
Here are just 5 ways we try to do our part.
Cloth Napkins We stopped using paper towel and paper napkins at home quite a while ago. I have a huge stack of cloth napkins and they can just be thrown in the washer with a load of towels so that we aren’t doing a separate wash. I have gotten them as gifts, made some myself, found lots at yard sales/flea markets, and gotten some as hand me downs. They are super easy to make from fabrics you have lying around the house or maybe even from an old sheet, shirt, or pillow case.
Cloth Bread Bags/Bread Box I love making bread and I used to use a lot of plastic bags to keep that bread in. Now I use a bread box and bags aren’t required for that at all. A properly designed bread box will allow enough air to pass through to keep the bread from going moldy but not enough to dry it out as if it was left out on the counter. If you’re like my mom and you give bread to friends and family, try using cloth bags. It keeps the bread clean and works similar to the bread box. No airtight bags promoting mold growth. People are always happy to give the bags back to be reused again. If you are using cloth bread bags just make sure you don’t wash them in a smelly detergent and don’t use fabric softener. No one wants their beautiful bread smelling like “crisp morning air” or tasting like chemicals.
Cheesecloth One of the reasons I liked keeping paper towel in the house was for times when we cooked bacon. I would lay out sheets of it to absorb grease when the bacon came off the pan. In order to eliminate this I tried several things but nothing would absorb the grease well enough for me. Then I spotted some cheesecloth in the pantry and decided to give it a try. Worked like a charm! When I was done I would rinse it in hot soapy water in the sink to get most of the grease out and then throw it in the laundry. I have several of these pieces of cheesecloth dedicated to this so when they are washed I fold them and put them in a kitchen drawer until the next time I need them. Again, no smelly soaps or fabric softener.
Reusable Shopping Bags As much as people like to think about being environmentally friendly there are still a lot who don’t have reusable shopping bags. Most of the comments I’ve heard are about convenience but for me the “hassle” of bring bags far outweighs the hassle of trying to find space in recycling or storing plastic bags for something else later on. I also have less issues with broken items than if i was using flimsy plastic. Reusable bags don’t just have to be ones you buy from a store either. I have lots of those, but I also have cloth bags that I’ve made (good for packing meat or messy items because you can throw them in the washer) and I have some that I’ve made from the feed bags we get.
Thrift Store Shopping/Buying Used I love the thrift stores. Not only can I save money and find things that a lot of the times still have original price tags on, but I’m helping keep things out of the landfill. I’ve said before that my parents are great at reusing items and re purposing things and this i something that I’ve taken to heart. Lots of my furniture has been used, most of my wardrobe is from one thrift store or another, our kids know that they can get much more from the back to school budget if we buy second hand, and when you reuse/re purpose you end up with an interesting style that you probably won’t find anywhere else.
I hope that’s given you something to think about today. As I come up with more recycling/reusing ideas or find things around the house that are recycle/reuse items I’ll post that for you all to see.
Have a beautiful day.